Abstraction vs. Specific Filter

This is a simple one, some people are pie in the sky thinkers and others are down in the details. My wife is a super rad marriage celebrant, and the other month she had a bridesmaid who would keep asking about the timings for each bride to walk in, what time she would start speaking, what order people should walk in and what she would say about marriage equality. And this did not stop until the ceremony started.
Conversely, I imagine there have been one or two grooms that have simply asked what day and time is the wedding being held and that is it.

People will need to know varying level of detail when it comes to making their mind up on something. Where we get this one wrong is we give to much or two little information to a person. When you know what a person needs, it means you can tailor your communication about an idea or project to what they need, thus improving your communication.

So the question might be:

“If we were going to do a project together, would you want to know all the details or the big picture? Would you really need to know the big picture, Or just the details”?

A person could respond in one of four ways:

Specific = “I want all the details you have available…”

Abstract = “Just tell me the overall idea please…”

Specific to abstract = “What are some of the details…you can get the idea from here…”

Abstract to specific = “Here’s the whole idea…and here’s how we’re going to do it…”

Rock and Roll


PS. What’s the one thing you don’t do, that would cause the most positive change in your life?

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