The Rules of Observing Body Language

It is important when reading people that you avoid taking one thing you see out of context, you must realise you need to see people as a whole and aim to observe at least three changes in an individual before making an assumption of what the possible change has been for them.

A good approach to developing the skill of reading people is to start with observing one thing a day. For example, try this seven day activity:

Day 1: Observe where peoples feet point when interacting with them.

Day 2: Observe the direction people lean in your interaction with them.

Day 3: Observe peoples eyes, are they focused, un focused, dilated or un dilated.

Day 4: Observe a persons cheeks from moment to moment, are they light or dark.

Day 5: What is a persons lips doing, are they full and filled with colour, or are they tight and flat.

Day 6: Observe the jaw and cheeks, is it clenched or lose, soft or firm, shiny or not.

Day 7: Look for three things that seem to follow the same path like feet are pointing in one direction, the body lean is in the same direction and the eyes are focused or un focused.

Practice is key to reading people, building a solid foundation of what you can see makes it possible and start by assigning no value to what you see. Start with honing your ability to see changes from moment to moment. Then focus on assigning meaning to what changes occur in relation to how situations and conversations change.

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PS. What’s the one thing you don’t do, that would cause the most positive change in your life?

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